My Rules to Internet dating.

We live in the world of PC's. I know I spent most of the day on one. I watch tv on it. I listen to music and of course I write my personal feelings on it. Last but not least I have dated using the glorious net.  After much trial and error I have some rules to dating. 

1. First see a picture better yet see a webcam.
2. Make sure the person wants to date you and not hook up with  you.
3. Get a phone number and talk until you feel comfortable.
4. Meet in a public place and go in your own car.
5. Enjoy.

I just want to give you a little side note for number 2.  Please be very careful about making sure what the person expects when you meet at lot of people these days are just in it to find sex and they don't want anything else. FWB..  if you don't know that is Friends with benefits. FB... is just  F--k buddy. NSA.. no strings attached. Make sure you are clear for what your expectations are.

Friday 13th

 On the Thursday night before I thought wow I am really having gas pain on my left side. The pain kept getting worse but I didn't think that it was anything serious. I went to lunch with my aunt. I bought a coke and though If I can burb I will be allright. It felt better for a while especially after my shower.

 At almost 10 pm the pain got so bad that I could not even sit down. I couldn't breath without pain. I could barely even move. I woke my mom up and told her we have to go the emergency room. It took me about 10 minutes to get in the car because I had more pain when I sat. I had to sit on the front part of the seat just so I could get into the car. I arrived at the ER and I was angry because they wanted me to answer all of these questions but I couldn't even breath. They put oxygen on me and it took forever to see a doctor. I saw one doctor then they changed me to another one. Never once did they give me anything for pain.  The doctor said you need to have CT scan because I think you may have a blood clot. I got a scan and I had one in my lung. I found at later that clots were in both of my lungs and my legs. I spent 24 hrs in SICU and then spent 3 more days in the hospital. Currently I am on blood thinners and here is some information about  PE.
A pulmonary embolism (PE) is a blood clot in the lung. It usually comes from smaller vessels in the leg, pelvis, arms, or heart. When a clot forms in the legs or arms, it is referred to as a deep venous thrombosis (DVT).
The clot travels through the vessels of the lung continuing to reach smaller vessels until it becomes wedged in a vessel that is too small to allow it to continue farther. The clot gets wedged and prevents any further blood from traveling to that section of the lung.
When no blood reaches a section of the lung, that portion of the lung suffers an infarct, meaning it dies because no blood or oxygen is reaching it. This is referred to as a pulmonary (or lung) infarct.

What not to say when someone has a miscarriage

The Gift"You can always have another."They don't want another baby, they want this baby.

"Now you have an angel looking after you."
They don't want an angel, they want their baby back.

"It's for the best."
Best for whom?

"At least you didn't know your baby."
Whether you held your baby in your arms or only in your mind, this baby is real.

"There must have been something wrong..."
Wrong with me?

"Did you do something you weren't supposed to do?
Did I cause this? How could I have hurt my baby?

"I understand how you feel."
Even if you have had a miscarriage, every one feels their grief uniquely.

"Have you ever thought of not having children?"
Yes, I probably have. I realize that I may never be a mother.

"Be grateful for the children you have..."
It isn't a question of being ungrateful or not appreciating what I have.

Things to say:

• "I'm sorry."
• "What can I do to help?"
• "I'm here for you."

I got this list from  About.com. There are others out there with similar phrases. I read them all after I had a miscarriage. It really didn't help me but it gave me something to do and it let me know that I wasn't alone out there and other people have the same feelings. They say time heals all. I am just waiting.

Miscarriage

First, of all I had to look the word up to see if I had spelled it correctly. Why would you even want to even want to ever spell it in the first place. Most people don't want to think about it but it happens. Unfortunately it happend to me. My first time ever being pregnant and I had to have that happen.
It started off not even simple. I had to go through rounds of infertility tests and I even had a surgery to remove some uterine fibroids. After I was healed I tried to get pregnant naturally that failed so I went to the doctor at CHA Hospitial in Seoul. I went through a couple of weeks of giving myself shots in the stomach to ovulate. They did a egg retrival and then 3 days later put 3 fertlized eggs and then I waited a couple of weeks later I was told that one was successful. I was excited and nervous at the same time. I always felt a little uncomfortable about it like something was going to happen.
I got through one month. I felt more comfortable and thought more about the future. Then I started having problems with my knee at least I thought it was my knee. At the same time I also figured out that I didn't want to be married any more. It just wasn't working out. You can't stay married to person your not in love with. It was followed by arguements about getting a divorce every other day. I was working too and that wasn't going well working in pain. Then my grandfather died and I decided to go home. I was in some pain through that whole flight. I thought wow I really need knee surgery.

I got home went to the furneral. A couple of weeks later on Friday the 13th. I had bad pain in my left lung. Finally, that night I went to the hospital. They told me I needed to get a catscan but they would shield the fetus. I said ok. Then they told me had a blood clot in my lung. Later I found out I had blood clots in both my lungs. They put me in SICU I stayed there for 24 hours and they put me on blood thinners. I was so happy whenever I could breath. They took an ultrasound that Friday the baby was fine.
I went back two weeks later to get another ultrasound and they told me after I had to jump through hoops that I had a diminished fetus in other words it died and they don't know the cause of it. The doctor told me I needed to grieve and that I was going to have to have it surgerically removed. I had to wait another week before I could have it removed. I had to have this baby that was no more in me. I felt and still do that it wasn't fair for my first time. I had to deal with so much in so little time. People gave all kinds of advice that didn't work. I will post not what to say later.